“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.”- Albert Ellis

Do you feel in control of your life?  No matter how negative events or actions may become, you are the only force that is able to determine the reaction.  Your reaction is your choice.  Take a moment to take responsibility and think what can I learn or how can I grow from this event?  Often we fail to do this, and instead blame the world for our feelings of sadness, rejection, and hopelessness.  We can be our biggest critic or our own best motivator in evaluating ourselves in a bad situation.  Why not be your own cheerleader, look for the good in the situation and focus on that.  Do some pep talks with yourself each morning.  This will help you develop positive, self-affirming thoughts that will enhance your personal development and growth.