Do you hold on to petty disagreements and look for ways to get back at people? Or do you let things go, take a lesson from the experience, and go on living a happy life? It can be hard to let little irritants and costly mistakes go, not dwelling on them takes a conscious effort. If you tend to hold on to anger and be intent to make other people pay, it will only breed negative feelings. You might get moody, impatient or irritated and focus on retaliation, which doesn’t help anyone. This pent up anger and resentment may also end up hurting others around you. Holding on to resentment only leads to hate, which can make you see everything as tainted in your life.
This situation came up in a recent call. An individual went to her spouse’s dentist and the dentist told her that she needed a lot of dental work. She decided to go for a second opinion. After going to the other dentist, she was very angry feeling that the spouse’s dentist was trying to do unnecessary work. The individual intended to confront her spouse’s dentist and demand a refund. After discussing this option, she concluded that confronting the dentist would likely breed anger and resentment between the couple and with the dentist. The individual agreed she knew this was an elite dentist office and somewhere she wasn’t quite comfortable. I encouraged the individual to just learn from the experience, let it go and to use the dentist she felt comfortable with. The consultation fee was not worth creating an issue between her spouse and herself. It worked!
Learning a lesson and letting an issue go doesn’t absolve the wrong that you experienced. It simply frees you to live a life that isn’t anchored to the hurt and resentment of past events. This week work on letting issues go and don’t hold on to them. Your outlook will change and you will be very grateful for what you have.